Putting the Perps in Charge of ‘Healing’
What other institution could get away with this?
OAKLAND, California (CNN) — Terrie Light stands outside Oakland’s stunning new modern cathedral in a first-of-its-kind garden that honors victims of clergy sexual abuse. She was abused by a priest at age 7.
"It’s a really small, important physical representation of a horrific thing that happened in many places," she told CNN.
She says the garden’s centerpiece, a symbolic low stone sculpture that’s broken, is fitting for those whose lives were shattered by priests. "The energy that the artist put was this circular stone trying to pull itself to become unbroken. That is our journey. That is what we try to do every day — is to try to be unbroken."
The garden is placed near a wall of the Cathedral of Christ the Light, which was consecrated September 25.
Two low-curved benches bracket the sculpture, one facing toward the cathedral, the other facing away. The benches are surrounded by hedges.
The bench placement is deliberate and takes into account the feelings and needs of abuse victims. Those who choose not to face the cathedral end up facing a small lake across the street.
Father Paul Minnihan, the provost of the cathedral, says it was important to have the garden — for the victims, and for the church to atone for the sins of its past.
"Part of the church’s mission is to make sure we bring healing to people who are in need of it, even if we were the cause of it," he says. "Having this garden on the campus says we are serious about our desire to help in your healing process on whatever level. As this cathedral will be around for 500 years, so will that garden as a place of healing and hope."
The Catholic Church was rocked earlier this decade by allegations of children being sexually abused by priests, with scores of victims filing lawsuits against their alleged abusers. The church was accused of covering up the abuse for decades by sending offending priests to other parishes.
The church wound up paying hundreds of millions of dollars in settlements. Some priests went to jail; others resigned. Pope Benedict XVI in July apologized to victims and called the abuse "evil."
At the garden’s dedication on October 11, Allen Vigneron, bishop of Oakland, once again offered the church’s apology. "To the hurts of so many innocents, we preferred the darkness to the light. And for that, I again make heartfelt apologies to all victim survivors. As it says on the plaques at the entries, ‘We remember and we affirm: never again.’"
Terrie Light, who has been a vocal advocate for abuse victims for many years, says getting the garden built was not an easy process. "We got silence, then we got passed around," she says.
She said Barbara Flannery, the former chancellor of the diocese who became the church’s point person on helping victims, advocated for the garden to the bishop.
"He thought it was a good idea. But it’s different from ‘It’s a good idea’ to ‘Here’s the people to meet with to make it happen,’" she says. "When we finally met with the architect, things really changed."
"He really understood what we were trying to accomplish and put together some architects to create this garden that he thought would give us what we wanted for a place for people to come and connect to their spirituality not inside the church."
"There are people that want to go into a church that cannot. It’s too painful, too emotionally traumatizing," she says. "There are other people that are ambivalent — that want to be there and not want to be there. This gives them the option."
The garden is not what survivors had originally envisioned — a lush, English garden with flowers and trees. But they are pleased with the outcome.
"It’s a very simple space," Light says.
Most victims of abuse in the Oakland area favored the garden; a few opposed it, feeling that it implied closure to a problem that still exists.
Minnihan says the church has sought "to bring back healing and wholeness and work with those who are survivors" since the scandal. The garden is emblematic of that.
"We wanted to have a place respectful for their needs and their wishes," he says.
What other institution in society could, from a position of profound trust, perpetrate a series of serious and systematic crimes against children, fail to change its ways in any meaningful manner, plant a "garden" to the crime victims, and maintain its respectability?
None that I’m aware of. Let’s review:
- Centuries of tradition has forced a male-only status for priests.
- Priestly celibacy has led to a culture of denial and sexual repression.
- This repression has led to a class of people (priests) who could only express their sexuality in deviant and/or secret ways.
- Upon exposure, the church first tried to mount a cover-up, transferred priests to other locations where they could continue the abuse, then paid vast sums of settlement money to victims–money that was ultimately contributed by other parishioners. So there was little or no actual human or organizational punishment or responsibility taken for the crimes.
- Though condemned by the Pope, the only change made was the removal of some priests, and a promise of "never again." But really, why would anyone trust an institution so rife with corruption to make such a promise? Isn’t the promise of "no sexual misconduct" sort of implicit in the concept of "priest?" Why does an organization that’s been around over a thousand years deserve another chance?
- The refusal to remove celibacy requirements ensures that new generations of priests will be looking for ways to express their sexuality. No one is safe around people with such deeply repressed shadow. They have become desperate men.
- The papal refusal to include women in the ranks of church hierarchy ensures the absence of any check or balance on sexual misconduct.
- The insular nature of church hierarchy ensures that no outside observers will be "watching the watchers."
This garden is an insult and a disgrace. It’s a self-serving attempt to whitewash unforgivable crimes, and keep victims in the fold by giving them a paltry and grudging recognition, while keeping the same bankrupt hierarchy in place.
As I’ve discussed previously, it’s not possible for a church to do otherwise. A lax church is a weak church, and the whole Catholic dogma sets the bar unrealistically high to prevent free-riders on the train to heaven. Priestly celibacy and male exclusivity is part of the deal. So in the face of scandal, the church is going to keep its walls up. It’s the nature of the beast.
But in my fantasy world, (yeah, where humanity actually rules) here’s what would happen: Turn the entire brand-new cathedral into an international center for abuse victims and their families. Establish a commission on clergy sexual abuse, open to members of all religious organizations, and also staffed with secular psychologists. Mount a fact-finding mission as to the major factors that led to the abuse, and commit to following the recommendations of the panel on modifying church dogma, hierarchy and structure. List the names of all perpetrators–etched in stone–a hall of shame. Prepare a large section of the former cathedral grounds for people to contemplate their relationship to their concepts of God under an open sky and without human interference.
If I had to guess in advance at what the recommendations of such a free and open panel would be, it would include the following:
- Allow female priests.
- Allow gay priests.
- Allow married priests.
- Promote family planning worldwide. (What a concept!)
- Abolish "sin," replace with a strong and broad consensus of rational ethics.
The Catholic Church must step out of its role as the primary exemplar of the shadow of human sexuality. It must completely change its tune. For all the heartache sexual abuse victims have endured–that would be the only fitting apology.
But then, it wouldn’t be much of a church any more, would it?